Ever since my kids were toddlers we’ve been trying to figure out how to teach them responsibility through chores. We’ve always had chore charts for them, and still do. Their rewards have changed from stickers to magnets to nickels to screen time. Each new phase in their growing up has brought changes to our expectations and rewards. Our current system is pretty stable – as in there is no one complaining about it – which is good. They are expected to make their beds, clean their rooms, pick up toys, and do two household chores every day. In exchange they … Continue reading
Teaching a child to say they are sorry is somewhat easy. Teaching a child to be sorry is very difficult. Teaching my daughter either of these things seems downright impossible.
Miss E, my spirited little 4 year old, has begun to refuse to apologize. Even when she knows she did something wrong. Even when it’s clearly making her sad. Even when I can see that she knows she needs to. She won’t say it. Won’t even look the person in the eye. Won’t, won’t, won’t. She looks at her shoes. She asks you to read her a book. She covers her ears. But she won’t apologize.
And now she won’t even pray to ask God’s forgiveness.
What do I do? I feel like I’ve tried everything, but I’m sure I haven’t. I have had her repeat after me. I have explained the importance of saying we are sorry in every way I know how. Why won’t she just do it??? I can see that she is sorry. I can see that she is embarrassed. I can see that she understands. And I get so frustrated at her stubbornness! Or is it stubbornness at all? What could be happening in that little mind of hers? Really…I am asking. I don’t know where to go from here.